Ok so being the anal mom I am... at the very young age of, oh, I don't know a few months, I put my babies to bed and they go to sleep. Well, with Kennedy, knowing that she's the baby and our probaly our last we have spoiled her when it comes to bedtime. Jacob likes to hold her and rock her, for EVER! He'll hold her for an hour or so... she falls asleep and he continues to hold her. He loves it, she loves it, I love to see it. But, I think its time that we put her down and let her fall asleep on her own. So we've tried that for the last couple of nights... NOT. GOING. SO. WEll! We lay her down, sing her songs, walk out, and she starts screaming. I know I probably don't need to do a play by play cuz you have all been there.
She'll cry for a bit. Then stop. Then cry some more. So my question to all of my mom friends is what do I do? Do I keep pushing putting her down? Or do I let Jacob hold her and rock her to sleep? And if we keep doing that when do we stop? And when we do stop and just lay her down, will she go down? Or will we be going through the same thing again. HELP! I don't know what to do. They boys were so much younger they have just always gone to bed so good. But Kennedy is such a good baby, who never cries, that we just can't bear to hear her cry for half hour or so...
Oh and by the way.. She just turned 2... So what do I do? What has been your expirience with this?
Ok... so after 40 minutes of crying... Jacob went and got her. She fell asleep in his arms with in minutes... and now she peacefully sleeps....
Thursday, January 22, 2009
Sleep baby, sleep... Please!
Posted by Annette Rose at 9:27 PM
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Each kid is different.... take each day at a time..... if your husband wants to hold Kennedy, you should let him. What can it hurt? Sure she may cry a few nights, but think of the memories... She will learn to fall asleep eventually... why not in her fathers arms....
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I think it is sweet! I don't have any great advice since we don't rock our kidos to sleep! They are just use to being put down as an infant when they are drowsy and not almost asleep! Maybe Jacob can hold her and rock her and lay her down when she is almost asleep. If that works try just a little bit less time the next night! Good luck! I hate babies to cry too!
oh that is sweet! especially if she is your last and you want to savor every moment like putting her to bed!
If Jacob is happy to do it...let him. When you transition her into a 'big girl bed, he can sit next to her and read to her or rub her back.
Eldon and I have 'counted blankies' for our kids since Elijah was just monthes old. He's 12 now and he still wants his blankies counted, as do my younger kids.(We lift the blanket up and count by 2s or 5s or as they get older by 13s, etc. The kids pick which number we count by, not to exceed 10 counts.) We are now able to send the kids to bed after a hug when it gets really late. Routines are hard to break cold-turkey, but transition and small change to them as the kids get older seems to work well for us.
Oh, and I never let my kids cry when they where little. I don't think they are spoiled...I don't think anyone else does...???
I would push a little at a time. I let my kids cry. I mean they go to bed AWESOME at weeks old but there are times I just needed to do it! I think I try to set a line so that the kids know. So, there are times I rock them to sleep because I want to or they want to and times where they just have to cry because I just don't want them getting used to that.
I am a middle kind of girl...... I don't think you should let them cry all the time or rock them every night. Just come to a middle point. Not sure if that helped at all. I wouldn't worry too much. Kennedy is such a good girl I think she is just a DADDY"S GIRL!!
She is so cute!!!!!!!
hmmmm...i have always rocked mine, however, when they started the crying/screaming stuff later on, john would lay with them in THEIR bed until they fall asleep. eventually, they are use to their bedrooms as the sleeping place. good luck. :D
I think it is sweet too. The only down fall is if you ever plan to leave her if you go on a trip or something. It may be hard on the person watching her to put her to bed. If you feel she needs to learn to fall asleep on her own, then do it, if not, then don't and enjoy it. But, if you decide to, stick with it. I always go with the 5 min. theory; after 5 min. of crying go in pat their back and tell them you love them and walk out, adding on 5 min each time so; 5 min., 10 min., 15 min., and at 20 min. you just go in every 20 min. That way they know you love them, but you will not be getting them out of bed. This will be 2 or 3 horrible nights, but it has never gone longer then that for me. But, do what you think she needs. Good luck!
I like Jana's plan...that's what we've been doing with Camryn. Go in after 5 minutes, talk to her, touch her face, then wait 10 minutes, then 15, and it seems to be working really well. However, Kennedy is such a good girl, maybe she needs this "daddy" time. It really is sweet. And speaking from experience of babysitting for a week, she went down just fine for me every night...I loved rocking her and singing to her :) I say let them do that as long as they want, cuz someday she won't want to anymore :(
So... good thoughts from everyone. Thanks. I got lots of emails about it too. The census seems to be to let her do it...she does go down for other people. In fact we had a sitter last weekend, and she laid her down before she fell asleep and she said she never made a peep. So maybe she just really wants this time with Jacob...
totally went through all that with gabbi, were suckers...everyone gave me such a hard time, so I tried this method, and it was awful, totally tramtic on me and her. I finally decided, it wasn't worth it, after about 3 weeks of h...so I figured, no one has ever regretted spending too much time with their kids once their grown. One day will come when she's way too busy for cuddles. It's so hard being a parent, and knowing if were doing the right thing, but I do know that you can never give them too much love.
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